Here is the question:“I am part of a friend group with four other women. They are going on an amazing international trip and didn’t invite me. I have traveled successfully with one of the women and less successfully with the organizer of the
trip. (That led to some distance between us, which we have since repaired.) I am really hurt and deflated by my exclusion. I love to travel, but my partner can’t afford trips like this, so I rely on my
friends as travel partners. I also like and respect these women, even if they’re not my closest friends. But this experience makes me feel that I’m not important to any of them. What’s my best move? Talk to the organizer? Confront each of them? Or back away from the group?”
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The answerI know you want a specific outcome here: to board that plane in a party of five. That is probably not happening, though. (I am sorry. I know it hurts to be excluded.) But if you look beyond this one trip, you may see other opportunities and — more important — decide these women are still your friends.
Logistically, traveling as a foursome is much easier than as a quintet. Tables for four are more plentiful in restaurants than tables for five (which are really tables for six). Four people can fit in one cab and share two hotel rooms. What is more, traveling well with other people often boils down to personal rhythms: When do we like to wake up? How active are we? How much time alone do we need? These factors, and even your bad trip with the organizer, say little about the quality of relationships, though. Your friends’ (possibly pragmatic) decision is not evidence of dislike.
Now, you say your partner cannot afford international travel. So, why not plan an amazing domestic trip? You also hint at closer friends. Hello? They sound promising.
There is certainly no harm in telling the international travelers that you would be keen to join them next time. Honor your hurt feelings, but do not blow this one episode out of proportion, OK?
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