Today marks Mother’s Day, an occasion
Jordan celebrates on
March 21 every year. It is one special time to celebrate all mothers who raise
their children, who work and make a difference to their society, and who are
active advocates for the rights of all women.
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Claiming success in their endeavors
Maysoon Haymour, mother to one child and interior designer
says “success means that I continue to enjoy doing what I am most passionate
about in life, which is design, and at the same time to be able to create and
maintain a deep connection with my daughter”.
Maysoon Haymour
“Being successful means that you are functional in both
roles: being a mother and being an employee,” according to Dina Al Bashir,
mother of two children, lawyer, an MP, a member of the
Lower House Legal Committee, and the youngest woman elected as assistant in the House permanent
office.
Ala’ Sinan
Success to Ala’ Sinan, single mother of three and director
of the Office of Fundraising and Grants at
Al Hussein Technical University, is
“reaching what I want as a mother, and a director”.
Sinan believes that work has a positive impact on mothers
and children, as it is a way to pursue a passion, build a career path and
relationships, and improve the family’s financial status.
There may be differing opinions on whether it is more
beneficial to children to be raised by a working mother or a stay-at-home
mother, and while there is no clear answer to that, it is undoubtful that
mothers do what they see fit to better the lives of their children.
According to Sinan, “children of working mothers are more
successful in terms of educational attainment and in terms of their personalities;
they are more social, active and strategists”.
According to Bashir, “working has no negative effects, as it
teaches how to respect time and organize your life affairs in a more thoughtful
way”. She believes that children of working mothers are more aware of what it
means for women to leave home to work and be active members of society, which
leads to changing the society’s ideas about women.
Success may not come easy; in Bashir’s case, the biggest
challenge is balancing the roles “as I have a difficult position that requires
reviewing laws and attending sessions”, while as a mother, she needs to “care
for my children in terms of health and study”.
Dina Al Bashir
Sinan said: “At the beginning of the pandemic, I lost a job
because one of the requirements was to work from the office for eight hours, and I
could not leave the children alone.”
“Women who left the labor market during the pandemic did not
return, unlike men, and the female economic participation rate decreased by 0.4
percent during the third quarter of 2021,” according to Jordan Labor Watch.
Department of Statistics (DoS) figures show that the
unemployment rate among women during the third quarter of 2021reached 30.8
percent, compared to 21.2 percent for men.
According to Reem Aslan, chief technical advisor at
International Labor Organization (ILO) Regional Office for Arab States, the unemployment rate has increased due to
working mothers’ low wages: “Some of them see that withdrawing from the labor
market and staying with their kids is better than working for a wage that will
not be able to cover the cost of transportation, nurseries, or even of
schools.”
There are other reasons that drive women to withdraw from
the labor market, according to Aslan: the wage gap between men and women, and
the length of paid vacations.
According to Sinan, “during my 16 years of working, the
length of paid vacation was never enough; the 14 days given a working mother
are usually used to take care of the children”.
The gap in salaries of men and women is one other challenge
women face, in Jordan and worldwide, Sinan said, adding that “our community
sees the man as someone having greater responsibilities than women. But what
about single mothers?”
Jordan ranked 131st out of 156 countries in the Global
Gender Gap Index in 2021 (133rd in economic participation and opportunity,
153rd in labor force participation, 56th in wage equality for similar work),
Aslan said, adding that a 2018 DoS report estimated the gender pay gap at 12.9
percent in the public sector, and at 7.7 percent in the private sector.
Discriminations of different sorts do not deter most women.
In Haymour’s case, “the only challenge I faced was the guilt feeling that came
with being a mother. The constant worrying that you are not doing enough or
giving enough”.
“It is challenging at first, but every time my daughter is
proud of my work or of what I do, I remind myself that I am setting a good
example for her.”
“Every challenge that you overcome is a success because it
affects you and changes your personality, and makes you a stronger person”,
Bashir said.
According to Sinan, “a woman’s desire to succeed drives her
to success. I believe that the support of those around you is a secondary
thing, and yes, we can balance our roles because God Almighty created women
able to do two jobs at the same time simply, all they need is planning and high
coordination”.
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